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About Nicky Anstey, Executive Psychotherapist
Nicky Anstey is an International REWIRE Executive Psychotherapist, Executive Coach, and Speaker specialising in burnout, exhaustion and high-performance psychology for high achieving leaders.
She works with founders, CEOs and senior executives who appear successful externally but internally struggle with pressure, perfectionism, imposter syndrome, people-pleasing and confidence.
Blending neuroscience, executive psychotherapy and NLP, Nicky helps high achieving leaders and Founders remove unconscious blocks that drive anxiety, overwhelm and self-doubt, so they can lead with calm confidence and sustainable high performance.
Her work focuses on rewiring the neurological and emotional patterns that contribute to burnout, anxiety and stress-related depression in leaders. Rather than surface-level mindset strategies, she helps clients create deep, lasting change at the foundational neurological and Nervous System level.
With over 15 years experience and more than 1,000 client transformations, Nicky is known for helping leaders move from survival mode into success mode — restoring energy, clarity, confidence and enjoyment in both business and life.
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Executive Psychotherapy for Leaders Who Carry Big Responsibility
Hi, I’m Nicky and being a Top Executive Psychotherapist and Coach, Speaker and Trainer, I have met some people I only dreamed of meeting.
My work has led me to interviewing Celebrity Successes, including the kindest man ever, Joe Wicks, and 2 of the Dragons from Dragons Den, the passionate power house Sara Davies and the Balanced Business Mogul Sarah Willingham, as well as meeting other incredible people in Business.
Davina McCall, Ashley Cain and Ross Kemp stole my heart, along with inspiring Multi Million Pound Business leaders such as David JP Philips and Jayson Grayston.
I’ve had an incredible journey and I am grateful everyday for the work, impact and the people I transform doing what I do.
But it wasn’t always that way…
I burnt out.
Not just the “I’m tired and need a holiday” kind of burnout. I mean the full-body, mind-numbing exhaustion, the kind that comes with chronic stress, sleepless nights, and health problems that just wouldn’t quit.
At the time, I didn’t realise stress could actually damage your body.
But it did.
And my body was screaming for help through constant health issues and operations.
So, I walked away from my successful corporate job and started what I thought was my dream: becoming a consultant nutritionist.
Things looked good on the outside. But inside, I was still breaking.
A Miracle Child and the Moment Everything Changed
I was 30 weeks pregnant when we were told our baby was missing a part of his brain… the central part that links the 2 sides of the brain together.
We’d already lost our first child through medical problems, after years of trying and operations, so when they advised on a medical termination, I just… couldn’t. This felt different. Mother’s intuition I suppose. So, I pushed the fear down and kept going, despite the prognosis.
Our son was born—a true miracle, defying every medical prediction.
And I told myself I was coping. Managing. Holding it all together.
Until one day I wasn’t.
I’d just had a meeting with his nursery. They’d always reassured me everything was fine, despite my concerns, and being told I was being sensitive if I vaguely asked if he was doing ok.
But this time they told me: he was behind. They hadn’t liked to tell me as I was in pain waiting for yet another back operation (one of the signs I was burnout but ignored it). He’d be starting school without the support he needed… and I’d missed the window to get him help.
I was in pain. I was exhausted. And I felt like I had failed him.
We went to the park. I remember it so vividly: the air, the tension, the silence, apart from the internal sound of being underwater. And then I heard a loud POP in my head. Something snapped. My brain and nervous system had reached overload. It felt like it had short fused.
I thought: “I can’t do this anymore.” Something had to change.
From High Achiever to Burnout
That moment was the final straw.
I had been pushing through, like so many high performers do. Thinking if I just worked harder, kept smiling, kept delivering, kept pleasing everyone, it would all work out.
But now? I couldn’t even get out of bed. I was on high alert constantly wired and tired. My business started to suffer. My family suffered. I just wanted to disappear.
My body had been warning me for years, but I hadn’t listened. I was strong. I’d always coped. I thought I was invincible.
When Coping Strategies Aren’t Working
I tried everything.
Sleep. Yoga. Massage. Reflexology. Meditation. Podcasts.
Self-help books piled up on my desk. Unread.
Even counselling didn’t work for me. I didn’t want to just understand why I was miserable and overwhelmed. I wanted to transform. And I needed results now, not years from now.
But nothing changed.
The Turning Point: Rewiring the Mind
That’s when I became obsessed with understanding the brain.
I needed to know why we keep repeating the same painful patterns—and more importantly, how to break them. For my son’s future and for mine.
I studied Neuroscience, became a Master NLP Practitioner, trained as a Master Clinical Hypnotherapist, Executive Coaching, Gestalt Therapy and Psychotherapy. I was a client in all of these spaces too.
And then something powerful happened:
The rewiring of my unconscious mind. And I applied what I learned to myself.
And everything changed.
No more people-pleasing or Imposter Syndrome.
No more perfectionism or second-guessing.
No more fear of failure or burnout.
I rewired the internal beliefs that had been sabotaging me for years. And found freedom. And my energy, drive and joy were back!!!
Investment in Growth
The £20K initial investment to work on myself and my son was a life changer. My fear of the risk of investing in myself and my growth being too much, has been blown out of the water, as I have seen, heard and felt the benefits it gives.
Hence my investment in myself continues to grow, since 2010 I have invested over £150K. Obviously I didn’t have this money lying around. I had to make it happen… saving, prioritising growth over short term hits like holidays and cars, to focus on long term benefits.
This investment is to help me, my son and my clients achieve in the most positive, productive and effective way. Ensuring the ROI makes it a no brainer.
My new belief is that you can’t invest enough in yourself.
This Is Deep Inner Change at the Root
I don’t just help you perform better.
I help you become better—from the inside out.
We rewire the internal blocks that hold you back, whether that’s in your leadership, relationships, business or personal life. And we do it in a sustainable way, so success no longer comes at the cost of your health, happiness, or relationships.
Now, I’m living proof that it’s possible.
No more burnout. No more operations. No more stress spirals.
Just Calm. Clarity. Confidence. And so much more energy!
With a business (and life) that truly brings me joy. This is my mission for my clients too.
The REWIRE Team
REWIRE is not superficial motivational coaching.
It is methodology-led, lasting transformation.
I lead a team of REWIRE-trained coaches who support integration and implementation.
Everyone bringing something extra to the table, whilst consistently following the REWIRE Method proven to transform.
Who I Work With Today
I now work with:
Many of my clients appear confident and composed.
Yet internally they may battle:
They don’t want hype.
They want change that lasts.
This is Not Surface-Level Coaching
I don’t do motivational hype.
I don’t offer quick fixes.
I help rewire the internal drivers that shape behaviour, emotion and performance.
This is about:
Common Questions
Leaders who want sustainable success without sacrificing wellbeing, happiness and relationships
The REWIRE Method is executive psychotherapy designed for Successful leaders who basically want to be better and feel better.
It combines therapeutic depth with performance outcomes. It works at the unconscious level rather than the superficial level. This creates lasting positive change that benefits all areas of life.
When the dodgy destructive foundations are removed, and new strong foundations planted at the neurological level, everything feels easier and success becomes quicker and more achievable as you build.
Yes. Imposter syndrome is extremely common among successful leaders and often increases with visibility and responsibility.
Because success often increases responsibility and pressure. Without nervous system regulation, high performers stay in survival mode, leading to exhaustion and burnout.
